3 Basic Steps to Healing Yourself
One of the greatest things about being alive is that we are given the chance to master our emotions.
We each get to figure out how to process through things that happen (even if not to us directly) – things that are said, things that we see, smell, and touch, stories told to us – some of them for our entire lives. Things leave marks on us and some words and actions resonate stronger than others, some sources hold greater weight because of how we feel about various factors like who said or did something or where you were at the time of an incident. Life is full of exploring pleasure as well as the darker side of the human condition related to displeasure, distress, a sensation of pain and trauma. Sometimes, especially right now amidst COVID-19, it’s easy to get caught up in distractions that creep into the subconscious, trying to disrupt peace and breed fear. The goal is to figure out how to return to a level head/heart space with the least amount of internal turbulence.
Why do our emotions even matter? Why do we have them?
Every person has the ability to utilize emotions (although mastery is far from an easy process), but many people don’t have someone to explain how things work. Our emotions are signifiers, signs that things are either okay or not in our environment, both internally and externally. Pain shows up when distress doesn’t get addressed, discomfort and disease are born from unbalanced energy. Whatever happened has happened and you cannot go back and unmake or undo it, but you can change the way you feel. Basically, you can change your own mind by practicing activities that help shift your focus; by becoming aware of your ‘self,’ engaged with your own health and well-being you can actually change your physiochemistry. When dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins are balanced we are a lot more likely to feel comfortable and at ease than when they are out of whack. Exercise, proper hydration, and getting enough sleep are major factors that help regulate the aforementioned neurotransmitters. As humans we need regularity, discipline, consistency to set up and maintain expectations about reality and our ideas of ourselves, our personal values.
The 3 basic steps to healing yourself:
Acceptance
Forgiveness
Love
Our bodies have an incredible ability to heal themselves when we can get our big powerful brains out of the damn way. Our brains need to feel that things are safe and clear so that we can tap into our charged and prepared CPU; ready to work, play, and recharge. Acceptance, forgiveness, and love are necessary ingredients for healthy processing.
You are allowed to examine your belief system and approach at any time, check-in with yourself to see what works and what doesn’t work to help you reach your personal goals. Are you ready to download, shift gears, let go of old shit that doesn’t serve your current purpose? Are you ready to radically accept, forgive, and love yourself?